Handling Criticism and Difficult People

That was the topic of my class last night presented by Susie Hawkins. It was so good and really something I needed to hear...and wish I had years ago.

Part of becoming a wise person (see Proverbs) is learning to hear rebuke correctly and not flying off the handle when it comes (and it will come).

Here are some things to consider, according to Mrs. Hawkins when you've received criticism or rebuke.
1. Consider the source - Who said it?

• Is it someone who has your best interest at heart or a chronic complainer

2. Check your motives - why did you do or say what you did?

• were your motives pure? why did you do/say it that way? were you promoting self/selfish ambitions
  
• can we be truly objective about ourselves
• remember that there is no end in our ability to justify ourselves (not a good thing)

3. Evaluate the Criticism - if possible say it back and be sure you heard it right!

• don't read more into it than was said!
• Is there ANY truth in the criticism?
• Can I learn anything from it? maybe something can be done differently next time
• Is it a moral/theological issue? Are your words/actions hurting others?
• Does it really matter (to God)?

Some conflicts have no resolution - confess when you are wrong - be thankful (not prideful) when you know you are right.
Lastly, what do you do about people who will never give you the approval you want so badly? Minimize contact and don't give them that power over you!